This is really beautiful Molly! I really appreciate your gentle and confident response—and the safe place you landed. Thanks for sharing and I’ll have to go back and listen to Holy Labor!
Molly, thank you for advocating and speaking truth into this issue! It wasn’t until a counselor looked me in the eyes and said, “what you experienced was trauma. Have you called it what it was?” And I still tried to downplay it in the exact form you mentioned. I learned that coming face to face with what I experienced in an undiluted manner was so hard, but the only way to truly heal. Thanks for all your work and sharing openly about it!
Wow, Alli yes! I totally agree. It's been interesting to me through my own experience how some of the most immense healing has happened in those moments where someone simple validates my experience. It's powerful. I want to do the same for others!
Molly, I'm so thrilled to have found your Substack! I resonated with sooo much of what you said (even the "that's not my polar bear" book 😄... My kids can't get enough of those books!). I definitely understand the Christian gaslighting of "It's not that bad!" and Romans 8:28 platitudes. You're absolutely right about the need to pay attention and call things out in honesty.
You might appreciate my Substack: Noticing and Naming. I just started but I'm a fellow Christian mom of littles trying to navigate life. I'm a trauma survivor of multiple miscarriages/ectopic pregnancies. The title of this post caught my eye because I sense the "trendiness" around trauma too, but all I ever want to be is real about real life things. And the fact is, trauma is indeed universal. We're just talking about it more now. And people can joke, but there's something deeply comforting and healing about hearing other people honestly share their trauma stories. There's comfort in knowing we are not alone. So thank you so much for sharing this ♥️
Jennifer, thank you so much for this thoughtful comment. I'm so glad you find this post and were able to connect with it. It means so much to me! I'm terribly sorry for your losses. Thanks for sharing about your substack. I'm looking forward to checking it out, also I love the name of it! Glad we can connect here 💓
Your words gently and consistently affirm and encourage, thanks Molly. It has been a journey for me to be ok with using the words 'trauma' for all the reasons you share above. I don't like it and I don't want it to be misunderstood or seen as attention-grabbing.. I also don't want my daughter to ever attach it to her identity. But. It's part of my story, and naming it has been helping me journey towards healing. I'm grateful for your words.
Thank you so much Rachel! I am right there with you. I go back and forth but eventually I always seem to end up in a place where I know that healing is found in naming what is true...even when that truth isn't something we like or wanted initially. 🌱
This is really beautiful Molly! I really appreciate your gentle and confident response—and the safe place you landed. Thanks for sharing and I’ll have to go back and listen to Holy Labor!
Thank you Emily! Appreciate you reading & this sweet comment!
Molly, thank you for advocating and speaking truth into this issue! It wasn’t until a counselor looked me in the eyes and said, “what you experienced was trauma. Have you called it what it was?” And I still tried to downplay it in the exact form you mentioned. I learned that coming face to face with what I experienced in an undiluted manner was so hard, but the only way to truly heal. Thanks for all your work and sharing openly about it!
Wow, Alli yes! I totally agree. It's been interesting to me through my own experience how some of the most immense healing has happened in those moments where someone simple validates my experience. It's powerful. I want to do the same for others!
Molly, I'm so thrilled to have found your Substack! I resonated with sooo much of what you said (even the "that's not my polar bear" book 😄... My kids can't get enough of those books!). I definitely understand the Christian gaslighting of "It's not that bad!" and Romans 8:28 platitudes. You're absolutely right about the need to pay attention and call things out in honesty.
You might appreciate my Substack: Noticing and Naming. I just started but I'm a fellow Christian mom of littles trying to navigate life. I'm a trauma survivor of multiple miscarriages/ectopic pregnancies. The title of this post caught my eye because I sense the "trendiness" around trauma too, but all I ever want to be is real about real life things. And the fact is, trauma is indeed universal. We're just talking about it more now. And people can joke, but there's something deeply comforting and healing about hearing other people honestly share their trauma stories. There's comfort in knowing we are not alone. So thank you so much for sharing this ♥️
Jennifer, thank you so much for this thoughtful comment. I'm so glad you find this post and were able to connect with it. It means so much to me! I'm terribly sorry for your losses. Thanks for sharing about your substack. I'm looking forward to checking it out, also I love the name of it! Glad we can connect here 💓
Your words gently and consistently affirm and encourage, thanks Molly. It has been a journey for me to be ok with using the words 'trauma' for all the reasons you share above. I don't like it and I don't want it to be misunderstood or seen as attention-grabbing.. I also don't want my daughter to ever attach it to her identity. But. It's part of my story, and naming it has been helping me journey towards healing. I'm grateful for your words.
Thank you so much Rachel! I am right there with you. I go back and forth but eventually I always seem to end up in a place where I know that healing is found in naming what is true...even when that truth isn't something we like or wanted initially. 🌱