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Kayla Hollatz's avatar

"He saw me in my suffering—not to use it but to be with me in it." Such an important perspective shift.

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Yes! Always have to be careful with the language of God using our suffering

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Mara Eller's avatar

Oh my gosh. Another friend of mine had this. And it’s unimaginable. I’m so sorry.

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Thank you friend. ❤️‍🩹 it is really awful. But I feel hopeful around the new research being done and the attention it’s finally getting!!

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Sara Forrester's avatar

Absolutely stunning, Molly. Thank you.

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Thank you 🥹🤍

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Nicolette Thomas's avatar

I’m always so proud of you & in awe of your strength and resilience. I hate that you have this story to tell, but love that you get to advocate for others — I’m sure they find comfort in knowing they are not along and that someone is fighting for better.🤍

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Thank you for being here every step of the way 🤍🥹 love you friend!!

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Anna Shane Stadick's avatar

Such beautiful writing! In my last pregnancy, I did not have HG ( because it went away in the second trimester) but I threw up ten plus times a day for 14 weeks and it was truly awful. I had to carry multiple barf bags with me everywhere I went because it would not stop. One day I even had to go to the ER just for fluids because I felt so depleted. No medicine I tried worked for me, but the midwives were very kind to me about it. I’m thankful it went away in the second trimester and wasn’t HG. I have so much respect for HG warriors because of my limited experience and think there should be so much more help out there for them. Thank you for sharing your story.

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Ugh, Anne I am so sorry you had to endure this. Gosh that sounds brutal. I still have barf bags in lots of fun places and randomly find them--like a little token of remembrance for what was endured. I'm glad to hear your care team offered you options. I'm thankful there are great resources and trauma-informed care providers out there.

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Shavonne Morrison's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story, Molly. I’m excited to see how the Lord continues to grow you and use you for His glory in this beautiful, important work He has gifted you to do. ❤️

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Thank you so much! This comment made me smile so big. I'm so thankful to get to use the voice God gave me.

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Hannah Chartier's avatar

Would love to hear what support groups you've found... I've had two HG pregnancies and it's a lot to handle one my own!

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

I’m so sorry Hannah! The HER foundation has online support groups & a lot of resources listed on their site. I’m also in a FB group through the HG & morning sickness clinic specifically for women who hope to have another pregnancy after already having HG. There are some exciting new options coming from Dr. Fejzo’s research if that’s something you’re hoping for 🤍

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Alecia Nicole's avatar

This would be my worst nightmare. I’m so sorry you had to go through this. 🤍 Was there anything you found helpful (or wish others would have done) from friends during this season for you?

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Thank you Alecia this is such a thoughtful question. 🤍 When I was really in the thick of it I felt so isolated. Couldn’t go to church, could barely leave my house, at times I couldn’t go in our kitchen because of triggering smells. Having friends come over and sit outside with me (less smells!) was always nice and having people actually call or send voice messages was sweet too.

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Alecia Nicole's avatar

That’s helpful! I have a friend walking through similar symptoms and sometimes don’t know how to help, so this is great. :) At least to hear what was helpful for you!

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Molly Wilcox's avatar

Yes! I couldn’t do a lot but audiobook recommendations or little pick me ups that aren’t food or smell related (candles etc.) are all sweet. Sending encouragement and validating how hard it is helps us feel less alone in the thick of it. Also, if she’s not getting the care she deserves maybe helping find better options! Without a lot of energy the task of research can feel overwhelming. If she has other kids, offering support. This is a lot, but I hope it helps!

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